At Christmas I DID EVERYTHING and I really resent my partner for this!

Happy new year!

We have one of our Mum Space Community contact us for advice, if you could have a read and drop and advice in the comments underneath.

“I’m tired, Im more than tired, Im exhausted! Ive struggled over the Christmas period being the ‘default women’.

Why is the woman the default parent 99% of the time? My children only had a magical Christmas because of me! I bought every gift, wrapped every present, came up with all of the ideas for the Christmas Eve boxes, got the matching pjs, bought a Christmas tree, decorated the whole house, went to the nativity's and the ‘stay and plays’.

I.DID.EVERYTHING and I really resent my partner for this, plus I don’t even get a thankyou!! Granted he does work full time, but I also
work 25 hours a week as an assistant practice manager at a GP surgery (my job isn’t easy). I’m also studying part time for a degree, whilst also being a mum and also trying to find time for me (I never do) I’m a mess, my hairs a mess, I feel like a bag of boiled 💩 but I still have to carry on for my kids.

Him? he just comes home from work and gets to be the fun parent. And me? Im the snappy, over stimulated, too busy to play with my children mum! When I try and talk to him about it he either laughs that im over reacting, or makes some sort of sexist comment that all mums do it. Yes we do and we do it bloody well, but ITS HARD!!  He's not fully to blame, I am a control freak and I like things done a certain way but I think thats because I know I will do a better job. (his input is always half arsed). My children havent even brushed their teeth today and are still in their pjs and the mum guilt is killing me!”

Please someone tell me Im not the only one feeling like this? 
Lots of love 
A mum who has had enough